Honour Killing : How many more indian youth will die?

I am not just sad but ashamed of the fact that in a country which gives secularism as a fundamental right to its citizen, incidents of ‘Honour Killing’ still occur, and in numbers.

So what is ‘Honour Killing’? Taken from wikipedia: :”Honour Killing is the homicide of a member of a family or social group by other members, due to the belief of the perpetrators that the victim has brought dishonor upon the family or community. Honor killings are directed mostly against women and girls, but have been extended to men”

Its only recently that these incidents have come to limelight, but I am sure that A Romeo & Juliet story repeats every month(in the news of course, 100s go unnoticed) with a tragic ending.

Let the view points of family disagreements be taken in consideration;
Let the view points of the couple-in-love be taken in consideration;

Who’s to blame, who’s right or wrong? Who’s to judge?

A impulsive decision taken by the the couple flames anger among family and the heat reaches the couple. Its really obvious that the couple’s blood is warmer than their parents, resulting in a bigger flame. No matter what, the end is always tragic.

Most of today’s youth don’t care for their parents. But the is the reverse also not true?

All parents want their children to stand first in class, but there is one and only one first position. Who is to be blamed? Generation Gap? Communication Gap or Society’s pressure?

No matter what, the end is always tragic.

I just fail to believe that the one who bears the child for nine month inside her could one day kill the same just because they chose a life partner without their consent? I also fail to believe that some youngsters chose extravagant life partners which parents are bound to deny. I have also come across parents who think children as their own property. I have come across children who take parents as a liability. Nevertheless, it all boils down to some tragic moments which this age (both oldies and youngsters included) fail to understand.

So what’s the solution?


Talking helps a lot. Talking leads to sharing of ideas, sharing of emotions, sharing of feelings. This leads to understanding which leads to a bonding. Most of the parent-children relation today involves least amount of talking and mostly assumption. Assumption, Miscommunication and EGO are the most satanic effects on any relationship. It dilutes the blood. Blood becomes less thicker than water.

So talk your problems! Take it out of the system. Speak, but listen too because the other also want to be heard.

In today’s mean world, society acts as a catalyst in fuming reactions. Many a times it has been observed that parents might not be opposed to the Child’s dream but the society would pressurize the entire family. I have heard several parents killing their own will when it comes to ‘showing face’ in the society. Do not let society bother you. Remember, society suffers from Amnesia. They will soon forget what they said or did.

Lastly, I humbly request parents and youngsters of my age – Be reasonable. Do not be stubborn. Sometimes its better to lose a battle to win others’ love. Both of you are important for the future generation to come. If you fight among yourselves, who will take care of the all so cool coming soon “NextGen” ?!

Dear Google, Why do you treat Android as an Orphan?

Dear Google, Why do you treat Android as an Orphan?

The problem with Google Android Market.

Android is a good platform, no doubt. But Google treats it like an orphan. Why, Google?

Did you give birth to Android just for fun? Have some responsibility! Nurture your child!

Believe it or not, Google doesn’t care a damn about Android. Why should they? Its not their primary product compared to Apple/Blackberry/Nokia! Google Search is!
Android is just a fun project for them with a bunch of investment as a throw away. Remember the time when Google wanted to have Android as an Independent company? Remember how Google didn’t pay lot of attention to the sale of Google Nexus One and finally shut the production?

There are some clearly visible problems with Android and why its not still the best in the market.

1. No Liability. Google doesn’t want to take responsibility of filtering quality apps. As I’m blogging at the moment, there are 300k apps in iTunes, 250k+ on Android, 50-80k on Blackberry and so on. None of the Android developers will disagree with me if I say that 80% of the Android apps are useless. Where is the Quality? People launch apps just to promote their own product?!
Hello? There is something called as HTML 5 and Mobile Web for that! But why would Google care for an orphan?

2. Lack of Interest: I have seen the forums. There are teams who answer questions related to problems but the entire thing is so slow and there is no fun involved. Developers are not excited about asking questions for the appstore.

3. Google Market: The market is a big big thumb down. I don’t like it at all. Lets take some examples:

A. Android Publisher accounts has big problems : There’s always some maintainence or upgrades or something or the other not working. Specially in last couple of months this has increased.

B. The Publisher account is a ONE MAN ARMY : Lets say you have a team, OH NO, Market doesn’t allow teaming concepts. Its linked to your primary account. How on earth Google assumes the app publishers will handover their primary account password to the developers to upload and maintain the apps? Companies like us launch 2-3 apps weekly and its a big problem for us to convince clients to send their Google Password.. This is surely not expected out of Google. To top it, our clients think we do not know our stuff!

C. Merchant Accounts: Well Google, Did you know how many Android developers are there in India? Atleast far far more than you think. For those of you who didn’t know this. Google DOESN’T ALLOW Paid apps in India and many other countries. Such a pity!

D. Ratings/ Comments: Oh Google, I am so disappointed with you on this. People keep commenting in and out. Negative comments on competitor products. A good product turns evil! One cannot even mark a comment as SPAM!

E. Free Apps to Paid Apps switching Not possible: Ok Google, You really scare me now. What if I want to offer my App free for a few days during holiday season? What if I want to run a promotion campaign? Really, have your team no marketing sense?

F. Copy Protection: Google missed out the long term thinking here. They have this feature of now allowing the apps to moved from Internal memory to SDCard. It was made to ensure that apps aren’t copied. Hey Google, didn’t you know ROOTed devices does that anyway. Obviously if someone wants to copy will copy it anyhow! But look at the negative side? There are devices with just 128MB of internal memory. How do you expect these devices to run apps out of internal memory?

G. No limelight for new apps: Google android store has become a place where there is no room for fresh apps. Whenever you open the Google Market, you’ll see top free/top paid etc and on the last is new releases. This is not the case with Apple iOS. Apple ensures that new apps do come on limelight by presenting the user with this screen first. As a result of this silly thing which Google fails to understand, the top apps keep topping all the time and there is very less scope for new apps to come on limelight

I. Google doens’t earn from Apps: They earn from selling support for their Android OS. There are 100s of manufacturers today who goto google for customizing their OS in the way they like it. Samsung and HTC are top ones. Google makes good money with this and they’re just not bothered about retail consumer markets.

Sales Reports:

So why all this?

I probably think is that Google doesn’t want to regulate the apps. Instead it wants as many apps as possible. The way google is behaving with the market clearly shows that it wants the app publishers to *NOT* earn money from their app’s sale but rather from other sources which is clearly Advertisements.

Due to such things, app developers are switching from a PAID app model to a FREE App + Adversting model. This is not good for publishers, but a very good thing for Google. As yet again, Google is highly interested in only ads! No matter where they come from.

Mobile devices are a new toy and platform for Google for their ad business to expand and the policies and strategies around the apps clearly suggests that Google isn’t going to improve their market in near future and just expect small little changes here and there to keep people happy!

Android has become nothing but just a dust in the glittering eyes of the users.

Google Search by Image API

Google hasn’t officially released its new search by image API so I thought of researching and writing a small article on how one can use this searching technique in their custom web, desktop and mobile apps.

Here’s a quick analysis first. Basically you replicate what the browser does for you and scrape the response.

Search Location: http://www.google.co.in/searchbyimage/upload

Request Headers:
Host: www.google.co.in
User-Agent: Mozilla/5.0 (Windows NT 5.1; rv:6.0.2) Gecko/20100101 Firefox/6.0.2
Accept: text/html,application/xhtml+xml,application/xml;q=0.9,*/*;q=0.8
Accept-Language: en-us,en;q=0.5
Accept-Encoding: gzip, deflate
Accept-Charset: ISO-8859-1,utf-8;q=0.7,*;q=0.7
Connection: keep-alive
Referer: http://www.google.co.in/imghp?hl=en&tab=ii
Cookie: PREF=ID=1d7bc4ff2a5d8bc6:U=1d37ba5a518b9be1:FF=4:LD=en:TM=1300950025:LM=1302071720:S=rkk0IbbhxUIgpTyA; NID=51=uNq6mZ385WlV1UTfXsiWkSgnsa6PdjH4l9ph-vSQRszBHRcKW3VRJclZLd2XUEdZtxiCtl5hpbJiS3SpEV7670w_x738h75akcO6Viw47MUlpCZfy4KZ2vLT4tcleeiW; SID=DQAAAMEAAACoYm-3B2aiLKf0cRU8spJuiNjiXEQRyxsUZqKf8UXZXS55movrnTmfEcM6FYn-gALmyMPNRIwLDBojINzkv8doX69rUQ9-

You can ignore most of the above and use standard HTTP headers of a normal browser or CURL it.

What’s important is the multipart form data which gets posted to the Search Location Above:



















The HTML form below posts everything for you, results of which you could scrap and use it for your app.

<form action = “http://www.google.co.in/searchbyimage/upload” METHOD=”POST” enctype=”multipart/form-data”>
<input type =”file” name = “encoded_image”>
<input type=”Submit” name = “Search” value = “Search”>
<input type = “hidden” name = “h1″ value =”en”>
<input type = “hidden” name = “safe” value =”off”>
<input type = “hidden” name = “bih” value =”800″>
<input type = “hidden” name = “biw” value =”1280″>
<input type = “hidden” name = “image_content” value =””>
<input type = “hidden” name = “filename” value =””>

Poetry and me

A language without its literature is like a beautiful beggar. She has her beauty but still unaccepted in society. Literature in the form of Poetry has been part of my life since childhood. I *do not* write poems. I have to admit that I did try writing but then I would also proudly admit that its not my cup of tea. And so I put myself amongst the cattle class who are confined to just appreciating poetry.

I love recitals. I love to know people by their words. I enjoy each and every word used by a poet in a poem or couplet. I try to dig deep into the mood or situation for which he may have chosen that word. Why not use another word in place? Has the poet done justice by using that word?

My love for recitals is not just confined to poems, but any form of creative writing. Recital is also an art and when done in the way it should be, would sound like music. Poetry which is easy to understand without the use of heavy words is mostly appreciated. Most of us regard Poets as a “Devdas” kind of a person. But remember, a Poet is not a mad-man scribbling anything. Its a perfect combination of words for the illiterates like us to understand and who do not know or care about poetry.

What makes me write this weblog is an incident over which me and my sister laughed tremendously a few days ago. It happened that I sent her an audio clip of a recital called ‘Mushaira’ of a famous Urdu poet. She started laughing immediately making fun of each and every couplet; I didn’t mind. I let her enjoy. After all, the reason I sent her the audio clip was for her to enjoy. Although the reason may be different.

Nevertheless, My journey with poetry started from the school days. We had poems in every class. Be it in English or regional language. Some poets/Writers who have inspired me back then were Wordsworth, Shakespeare, Vivian Derozio, Ghalib are some to be named. I enjoyed every moment of my childhood reciting poetry and speeches in front of the mirror, making expressions to myself, and clapping to myself. This is a gift I cherish till date. Many of the recitals I remember it till date. And I will not be modest to say that I have become an avid speaker now.

Words are really important in a person’s life and his/her upbringing. I am proud to belong to family of two cultures of my mom and dad. My Father and Mother are from same state of Gujarat but their hometowns are in opposite directions. Mixing up both has given me enormous number of daily proverbs, similes, and synonyms in their own literature. I always tried to translate them. Even my grandmother has played an important role. I still remember a proverb which my grandmother told me. She said “Measure your words and then speak”. When I was young, I made a funny comment. “Should I bring weighing machine”. She knew that I would one day understand its true meaning. Many other proverbs that still go behind my mind, and another such is “Go and earn and you’ll know how many 20’s make a hundred”. I used to immediately answer “5 20’s would make a hundred”. What a carefree was I ?!

Over the years, I myself have matured due to this. But this is dying. Today’s youth is more about social networking. Poetry for them is only to be shared over text messages. The literature behind the poetry or creative writing is lost. Who encourages his/her son to become a Poet except a Poet these days? Most students take up literature because they are poor in Math. The graduates in Literature usually become journalists or become literary quacks writing poor quality books.

Nonetheless, I encourage everyone to read poetry in any form. Poetry doesn’t only express the literature of the language but also the poet’s mind and mood.

Ramadan 2011

How I spent my Ramadan in my childhood

Most of the time in my childhood, we had exams during Ramadan or just after it. It was an advantage for waking up early to study. Ramadan for me in my childhood was to wake up early before sunrise, eat as much as I could, drink tea to kill the sleep and study for 1-2 hours and then doze off again until time for school. At school, during tiffin break, I would see other kids eating or buying food. I would abstain myself and half of the day was spent thinking about the Iftaari which would be prepared at home. I would come home at 2PM and count for the hours left to break the fast and EAT! I would watch television for an hour and take a short afternoon nap and wake up at 4 to realize 2 more hours are left. But I would be excited to meet friends for evening prayers. I would make faces at mom for packing less amount of Iftaari as I was a real hogger (I am now too). Many a times I would fill up the tiffin box myself without her consent.

During Ramadan, we make small groups and perform evening prayers together in a small community hall. My clothes would be spotless white. Always trying to keep the praying mattress extremely clean and tidy without any spots. I wouldn’t even want someone to place a foot on it so as to get a small imprint of his foot on the perfectly ironed white praying mattress. The only black spot would be the slippers. We were told to wear old slippers or the cheapest slippers because it would be easily misplaced in the prayer hall. I would reach the earliest to get the best place under the fan and reserve places for my friends. Sometimes they would be early and reserve place for me. We would pray together and share Ifaari together and then have dinner together. Before Dinner was served, we would play small games or hand tricks amongst ourselves. Childhood games like “See see, I can do this, can you do that” or a pretty famous game called “Dal Gosh Singa Bulbul”. A game played with fingers and counting them. Something like Rock-Paper-Scissors. Only that the loser would be hand slapped (Slap on the hand, not cheek!) by all others. Post dinner was a time to gossip and take a walk. Numerous days I have played video games like Mario and Contra at the parlor nearby (1Re for 7 minutes) after dinner.

So, this is how I spent my childhood during Ramadan. Mostly carefree, Doing things at free will and mandatory things – only what was told or expected out of me or rather say “going with the flow”. Things are different when you’re all grown up.

Importance of Ramadan.

Ramadan, the month which every believer bows down willingly without any pressure or fear but sheer due to the love towards the almighty.
Its this love which brings every believer to his knees thanking and asking for for more chances to thank. Yet many of us fail to realize its importance. Many Ramadans just pass by until one realizes and understands the true reasons behind it. Many of my own Ramadans have passed away carelessly.

Many people fail to understand the importance of fasting. The fasting during Ramadan is to kill the worldly desires. Yet many people fast only to have wonderful and lavish Iftaar parties everyday. Many people I know put on extra weight due to this. Some people have Sehari like a king. Dear people, kindly restrain to such activities; The fasting has a cause. Allow your stomach to feel the crunch. Only when your stomach crunches you will truly understand the importance of food. When you break the fast and drink the first sip of Sherbet, it should remind you to thank the Almighty for the sweetness he has provided. Remember, not everyone is lucky as you to take that sip of sherbet; Many do not even get clean water to break their fast. When you quench your thirst, your glands are moist and the reward is confirmed.

Ramadan’s second name is the month of Charity. Most of us are generous on Fridays; Everyday is a Friday in the month of Ramadan. Do your best. Do not hesitate in Charity as Allah has given you more than what you need. Be thankful and help the ones who cannot afford. There are many people who cannot afford the extra expense of Ifaaris during Ramadan; Give them food grains, pulses if you do not trust them with money. Give the needy what they need rather than giving simply money. Giving money is good, but giving exactly what they need solves the purpose.

I once read a blog of a person who was a nurse in Saudi Arabia, She wrote her experience that the patients in the hospitals who are sick and are exempted from prayers also do not want to miss prayers. It becomes a serious case sometimes in their treatment but still they do not want to miss their prayers. So why many FIT and FAT people like us simply ignore prayers? If you ignore prayers, on the day of judgement, the prayers will ignore you. What will you answer to “Why didn’t you pray?” . Answers like “I was stuck in some work” or “I was held up in a meeting” or “I had a headache” are simply to give yourself a self explanation and satisfaction, these self made answers will be ridiculed. If you are delayed and genuinely stuck try to amend for it later but never miss it purposely. A late prayer with genuine reason is far better than just skipping it. Many people simply make a lame excuse saying “Oh, its already late for the prayers, so sorry I missed it”. They feel no more than 30 seconds of guilt and they are back to their normal worldly pleasures. I ask those, How can you get a sound sleep at night without the satisfaction of prayers?

Abstention from Music and Entertainment
Many people believe that they should not watch TV or movies during Ramadan. Watching TV is not illegal. But it depends on what Niyat(intention) are you watching the TV. Many people simply turn off TV, do not visit movie halls; But keep sharing SMS jokes. Do you think with only outside show off, the Almighty is not watching your deeds? NOooo, for He knows what your reveal and what you conceal (Zahir and Batin). Remember the Angels are always watching you from behind and any activity you do is noted down. Most of us do not realize this at all or are too ignorant and simple feel no one is looking at them. Others will just feel 30 seconds of guilt. Keep a clean mind and clean Niyat and Allah will take care of the rest.

Fighting with the Satan
Its true that bad thoughts keep coming as the Satan keeps whispering in your sub conscience. But while one is fasting, It is a TEST on how you fight with your own bad thoughts. What is Satan for you? Its not a physical thing which you could see, but its his whispering voice and thoughts which tries to corrupt every human being. Being positive and asking for God’s forgiveness is the best way to frustrate the Satan.

Let us all try to clean our souls, clean our hearts in this month, for this month comes just once a year.

Employer-Employee relation

Today, an unexpected lady turned up for an interview. Probably a mismatch from the consulting firm we were working with. She was around 45 years old. Looked quite like a typical ‘aunt’. She had just passed class 10. She spoke exceptional English and always smiled.

From the conversation I had with her, she was quite disturbed currently with her job; Her current employer was mistreating her. She was working for a Marwadi group (Bhaijis as I’d call such people) and being a Christian was her mistake. She had been working in the firm as a front office executive for almost 5 years now and each year the Bhaijis gave her increments of Rs 200-300. I know this is not new with Bhaijis, but I was really shocked. Trust me, these Bhaijis increase 200-300 for their maid servants every year..

Shocked to witness as to how some employers take advantage of the people’s need. Just because the lady didn’t have any qualifications she couldn’t get a job elsewhere. This fact was very well understood by the Bhaijis and as a result exploited the employee. Earning millions and paying peanuts is not going to increase your status. You’ll still have people abusing you behind your back.

This is why people quit their job. She was very satisfied with her work, but highly unsatisfied with the caste/creed/gender biased bosses.

Another incident happened with a friend who works in the Hospitality domain. She happens to be at the managerial position. The moment she announced she was expecting a child, the entire attitude of her bosses changed from the very next day. They kept frustrating her with silly things which wouldn’t matter. Because they (the bosses) know quite well that they will have to provide all benefits to her as per company policies which they indirectly didn’t want and I’m sure they would keep on frustrating her until she quits.

And so as a result, people never care for their employers anymore. And then even employers don’t. Tit for tat. Both the employee and employers have become ‘professional’ and money minded. Its not uncommon that you’d read your friend’s status about they quick and funny comment expressing displeasure at work and bosses.

Employees have started jumping from company to company like a monkey. In another interview I took, I asked the lady, why did she want to leave her current job. She said she was quite satisfied with Job/Environment/Salary and practically everything else , but was looking for a better opportunity. I told her, “One day if you get married and have everything in life, will you still look for another husband?”. She never understood what I tried to convey.

As an Employer myself, Day by day, I lose interest in employing people. Giving opportunity to the needy first is what I believe in but it has always turned out that ‘the needy person’ back stabbed you without your knowledge forgetting every human relation. Not their fault, but the system has become like this where treating an employee as a Family member is like yourself being a vegetarian and expecting the Tiger to dine with you!

I have seen people who work for almost 10-15 years of their life in a company without even thinking to move to another company until they either have a problem or they are shifting to another location. Where are those people now? According to a survey, Indian salary class is the most mobile workforce in the whole world. I interviewed another candidate who had 3 years experienced but in 4 companies. He didn’t have work ex, but rather experience in how to shift companies!

Employers are cunning, lets face this. They don’t hire to create jobs. Trust me. They hire because they want to make money and expand business. And Employees reciprocate. Employees are big time opportunists. It has become a world of professionalism where employers stuff money into employees every growing mouths to keep them quiet.

On the other hand, among all this mean world out there.. We have an office peon from whom I have a great respect. He never says NO. ‘No’ or ‘not doable’ is not in his dictionary. He would do any work. From cleaning the office, to handling heavy bank and cash transactions. I must say that we’re blessed to have him and Its really hard to find such people. People who have respect for Employers gain back the respect they deserve. It is these kind of people who make me still believe that employees should be treated as part of the family.

Options Vs Confusion

A Child’s life is truly simple. Far away from the daily mysteries and bothering. A child doesn’t know what’s rich and what’s poor. A child’s definition of tension or stress is the exam or homework next day. Or to score better than his own best friend. All parents want their children to be on number 1. Foolish parents don’t realize that there is only one number one.

As I watch my niece brushing and polishing her shoes for next days school with her heavy bag lying on the other side of the room. I get reminded of my childhood days. Days when life was too simple when most decision were made for you. Life was simple and that’s why it passed by so quickly.

Today’s life is complicated and I am going to highlight on one of the reasons why it is – It is the Options that one get. Option not to be confused with opportunity but rather a path one takes in the journey of life while standing at a cross road.

Today more options give us more confusion. I visited a restaurant yesterday and found only 3 items for soup, 4 items for starters, 4 times for main course and another 4-5 more other items. I really understood the philosophy behind it. They wanted to cut out the options part from them. These days the confusion is about the number of options we get. More options are not to simplify your choice but to only make it more confusing so that you stop to decide. It murders your ability to decide. It kills your opinion about something.

Marriage is another example. Arranged marriage people on an average wait almost a year to be finally fixed with someone and take a look at an average of 6-7 to be spouses until a perfect match is found. Why? Well, its the ultimate question of a getting a suitable life partner! What if one makes the wrong choice ?

On the other hand, Out of the marriages that don’t last long, most of them have a reason behind it as an availability of another choice. Don’t like someone? Don’t care about the society? Splitting is the answer. You can always find someone else to have an affair with!

Options make life more miserable. Ever gone for shopping? Why do we always pull a friend or comrade to go along. Because one is always confused and tends to a friend / comrade for assistance and buys their choice.

Its an irony that some generations back, when a particular option was forced on to you, you always objected it. And now, you very nicely pick up someone else’s choice and proudly announce claim it as FREEDOM!

Life is not about the amount of options you get. It shouldn’t matter what option you choose. But has your choice benefitted all?

Do you also feel that more opinions makes it more difficult to come to the right choice ? Do share your thoughts in the comments!

I love you, dadima! [Grandma]

Very few people in the world have the priviledge of spending time with their grandparents. I have never seen my grandfather but have seen him through the eyes of my grandmother whose talks reflect him and how she misses him. My grandfather died almost 30-35 years ago and I can just understand the pain my grandmother might have taken without him.

I adore my grandmother a lot. She is no doubt smarter than anyone of her 90+ age. Everytime I visit her I learn something new. A new angle to one of her stories. A new approach of telling things. Her memories, her pain, her happiness.. The stories never fall short. Time may run out but not the endless tales of her life. Its just amazing that she remembers so much so well.

I visit my grandmother every Sunday who lives with my uncle and his family. She waits for me and I wait for the day to visit her. I am glad that I am having this special bond with her. I am amazed every time with her sharp memory. She knows if I was early or late for the visit compared to last Sunday’s visit..She notices if I had come walking or on my bike. She notices what color are my clothes. She doesn’t like black and asks me to avoid it. She notices if I have shaved or not or if I have put on weight since last week. She knows everything and all this at her 90+ age! I am blessed. I wish I could stay with her for more.. I wish I could take care of her more..

Even with her 90+ age, she can write well. She knows many English words of daily use. She says ‘Fijja’ for Pizza and ‘Lijer’ for Geyser. But she knows how to communicate and does that well indeed. She understands everything right on the first explanation itself, there is no need to explain again. She remembers all her medicines and when they would be finished. Everything is well planned.

Her thoughts are surprisingly modern,  Even than my mother. Completely un-conservative. A very strong lady who has seen ups and downs of life from all angles throughout her life. Many a times she expresses grief of how the world treated her in the past. Of how ungrateful people have been to her. But she is never angry or discontent now, In fact all she wants now is a peaceful and satisfying death. A much noble want than most of our worldly desires.

With such modern thoughts, I have never met anyone else who would be so religious. She remembers almost 1/10 of the Holy Quran in her mind and her speed for recital can give a clergy an inferiority complex. Every 10 days she finishes reciting the whole Quran. Some people cannot finish this over a month even! The only grief she has is that from last two years she has not been able to keep her month long Ramadan fasts due to her health. She would have still kept the fasts even with her old age and health problems if the elders of the family had not refused !

Some years ago, I remember spending the 10th of Moharram with her. We are supposed to fast the entire day as its a day of sadness. My grandmother broke the fast at sunset but never ate there after. Most people of our age would conclude it as the end of the day and event of sadness. But she continued. She kept saying “My lord has died and how can I eat, I just don’t feel like”. This was really touching. There are many more tiny memories of her which cannot be expressed in words rather just to be enjoyed;

My Grandmother is one of the perfect grandmothers one can have. I regret the fact that I want to do more for her and the time I we didn’t spend together which I am slowly trying to make up… I love you, dadima! [grandmother]